A couple of weeks ago, I was forced to observe a mirror which was reflecting back at me, challenging me to stare deep inside myself and understand my true intent. It has been a very humbling experience and a transformational learning for me. So significant that I wish very much to share it with you in the hope that it may influence further beyond my own existence.
During this particular moment in question, I was passing judgement, judgement upon a person well known and often in the spotlight of media. My judgement was harsh, as it usually was when this person attracted the medias attention. “That’s not how such a person should be talking about other human beings. Such a person should not be condemning living souls in this harsh manner.”
My friend looked at me and even to her own surprise, informed me that my judgement is not ‘Unconditional Love’.
“I agree that it’s not, but this person is in a position where he should be giving unconditional love”
“You have mirrors all around you.” Said my friend simply. “You have an expectation that this person and others should behave in a certain way.”
This was extremely confronting for me I don’t mind admitting. If you've read my other blogs, you'll know that I very often talk of releasing our expectations. I usually become very aware when I am holding an expectation. However, this was a tremendous expectation that I was holding on to and expecting all others to stand up to my own expectation. Yes, I had an expectation that this person should be sharing ‘Love’. Yes, I had an expectation that this person should hold no judgement upon others, yet here I was holding harsh judgement upon him. Who was I to judge! Who was I to know better? I certainly had to take this one home to ponder the naval with.
The defining moment for me which shifted my perception entirely was the message I received from my guidance. “What would the world look like if each of us were to release our expectation of what the world should look like and how the people should behave.”
I began to find an answer, however, to find an answer is to find an expectation. It was a statement, not a question. If each of us were to have no expectation on how things should be and how people should behave, we dissolve judgement. If we dissolve judgement, we dissolve not ever being good enough. If we dissolve expectation and judgement, what we have left is unconditional love. Unconditional love not only for others, but also for ourselves, for we no longer have the need to meet the standards of our family, friends and peers. We no longer have the need to strive for acceptance, therefore we find acceptance within ourselves.
This was an incredibly powerful statement for me. We are all guilty of believing we are right when we have a perception of how the world should look.
Don’t get me wrong, the message isn’t about letting go of our pure intentions and beliefs, it is simply a shift of perception. I continue to hold onto my intention for the people to return to more earth friendly ways. There is a difference between a pure intent and an expectation, I have no expectation of what a more earth friendly way looks like. I have no expectation that what I believe is right, I only know that my intention is for pure purpose of helping Papatuanuku and other human beings. I shall continue to work in the way that I work with the knowledge that my intent is for the great of good, until I am challenged to see it in a different way. I only hold unconditional love for each of you, without passing judgement for the things you may believe, the things you may say or the things you may do. Yes this is a practice, I’m not yet beyond a fleeting moment of wanting to have things in my version of what is right. I currently find myself regularly needing to remember the above message. I am but living a human experience, I must not hold judgement or expectation of myself to be practicing unconditional love at the flick of a light switch. I do however, hold the intention that my thoughts will become 100% pure and of unconditional love when the time is right, without expectation of what that timeline may be. Without expectation of the person I will be when that happens.
This has been a difficult piece to write, as I stumbled across many contradictions at each paragraph. The intention is not to delve so deeply as to find judgement in this message. The intention is only to expose a mirror to contemplate, one which shifted a perception for me and led me to a place of peace. My hope is that it may help you find a similar place.
Aroha nui, noho ora mai